Posts by just fine

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To the lurkers: This cult of a religion keeps killing my marriage over and over

by goingthruthemotions in

first let me say, if i could turn back time and never get involved with this cult.

i would.. to the lurkers: .

if you on the fence and could leave.

just fine

I am sorry you are going through this. So many families are destroyed or made disfunctional by this cult.

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Cognitive Dissonance is the feeling of uncomfortable tension which comes from holding two conflicting thoughts in the mind at the same time.

by Sledracer in

cognitive dissonance is the feeling of uncomfortable tension which comes from holding two conflicting thoughts in the mind at the same time.

this is what is wrong with me, i have a love hate relationship with the jw's.

just fine

I hope that you can take the next steps and explore your love/hate feelings and decide what you think/believe vs what you are taught. It's hard to work your way through it. Good luck 🍀

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the problem is i have a baptized witness going out on service door to door giveing comments at kh who for the last 4 years has had sex with at least 10 prostitutes and regularly takes drugs ie speed the cong has no idea he's doing this he says he will never go to elders for fear his family will shun him if df so he continues i know because he tells me everything should i tell the elders or not.

just fine

Why would you tell the elders?

That makes no sense. It's his life to live however he chooses. It's not your secret to tell........

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The Effects Of Instant Information At Your Finger Tips How Will The Watchtower Ever Survive Very Long?

by Brokeback Watchtower in

it is hard to teach that the earth is flat these day do to a more informed society, and now that we have entered the information age i see a whole new ball game is before a rather ignorant bunch of old farts called the governing body.

these guys are totally ignorant by choice and are trying desperately to keep their captive's ignorant for as long as possible.

the gb's internet apperances are all laughable to any sane individual and a total embarasement.

just fine

From what I can see in my family, the curiosity isn't there, because if they allow the Watchtower to make all the decisions for them, they aren't responsible for the outcome. If they make their own decisions then the outcome is theirs, and they are reluctant to take on that responsibility.

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Politically Correct Wasteland

by freemindfade in

this was a comment i made from another post, but i would like to hear some people discuss this.

i know the social justice warriors will scream i'm some sort of trump supporter for what i say even though i don't agree with his ideas and no i am not voting for him... i accept this is a go to for them.. i think we have fallen into a pc vacuum.. criticizing someones religion = racism!.

telling someone to not be so sensitive = misogyny!.

just fine

It does seem as though people do get their feelings hurt easily. The problem for me is that some people ( not referring to anyone specifically) are very very sensitive and then expect the rest of the world to change to sooth their insecurities.

i got over that fairly quickly after leaving the JW's where you are practically taught to be offended by everything. As a woman working in a male dominated field a thick skin is required, no one is going to coddle me.

Besides if no one challenges my beliefs how will I grow and learn?

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Missed it by that much ----------23

by John Aquila in

i almost had a freaking heart attack.

i even threw my coffee cup at the wall and starting yelling like crazy when i got the the 5th number correct.

i was checking my texas lottery ticket for this past saturday.

just fine

I love playing the lottery, it's entertainment for me. It's fun to dream and I win often so it keeps it interesting 😀 it's one of my favorite things!

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"mum, i been naughty, i'm disfellowshipped."

by Sabin in

jw
friends

so last night we get a phone call from our girl & she tells me the above.

turns out she has been d'ed for a month.

infact she made me turn off the speaker phone so her dad wouldn't hear & i could tell him quietly later.

just fine

Atonement- are you kidding me???? You think shunning isn't as bad as some people on this board make it out to be......... Why don't you talk to one of my young relatives whose parents have done terrible things to him/her and haven't spoke to him/her since he/she was df'd. It's a terribly cruel thing to do to a young person. Hell I'm not even Df'd and my siblings haven't spoken to me in years.

Sabin - I hope your daughter can see tatt before she goes back.

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JW marriages: “They” looked good on paper.

by Londo111 in

i applaud anyone, male or female, who overcomes shallowness and looks at a person’s deeper qualities, especially in regard dating and marriage.

the movie and fashion industry does much to institute shallowness to the point that, in my opinion, it promotes outright discrimination and judgmentalism even as they give lip service to tolerance..

on the other hand, among jehovah’s witnesses, there seem to be a preponderance of incompatible marriages.

just fine

I think when you are not allowed to be your true self, and are obsessed with pretending to be something you are not, there is no way a marriage could be fulfilling.

I am so glad that I didn't get married until after I left. I have been married for more than 15 years and love my husband more today than ever. We also are able to let each other grow and learn and change without the confines of a cult. I know I wouldn't have the opportunity to explore different interests if I had married a JW.

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An inguinal hernia.

by Fisherman in

there are a couple of schools of thought on this.

some doctors recommend postponing surgery others recommend laparascopic surgery, etc.

how about local anesthesia, complications during and after surgery and other concerns.

just fine

Wishing you a speedy recovery.

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Shunning: is it still practiced?

by FinchAndWeston in

are df, da and apostates still shunned?

are each treated differently?

i heard a secondhand report that they seemed to have eased up on this practice ...

just fine

I am not DA or DF and my siblings haven't spoken to me in years. It's alive and well.